Mindset – I Will, I Must, I Can…..

Mindset is simply being in the right frame of mind to win when facing challenging situations.  For example – if you want to win a race – you need to train your body and eat right to make sure you are healthy enough to compete in the race. You also have to visualise winning – being the first person to pass the finish post.



Personally, I used to run in races for my Junior School.  I had very few friends and decided that if I could run faster than the boys in my school – everyone would love me and want to be my friend.  I would visualise winning and would watch the Olympic Athletics when a leap year came around.  I WILL, I CAN, I MUST became part of my daily mantras.

And the success with races began to happen and I was chosen to represent my school in the borough athletics.

So How Do You Apply Mindset to Affiliate Marketing?

I must admit, affiliate marketing can either be learnt the hard way – through trial and error – or by getting involved in training programs like Wealthy Affiliate.  Before I joined, I had spent hundreds of pounds chasing after shiny buttons on the net and getting scammed left, right and centre.

Then, I decided to focus – find out my weaknesses and strengths within marketing.  The questions I asked myself were:

  1.  What do I understand about Affiliate Marketing?
  2. What don’t I understand about Affiliate Marketing?
  3. Was I willing to take the time to learn about aspects of Affiliate Marketing that I didn’t understand?
  4. Was  I willing to be coachable and learn from more experienced people than myself?
  5. What is  the most cost-effective way of learning from mentors without forking out thousands of pounds in coaching fees?
  6. Who am I and what knowledge do I have that could solve peoples’ problems?
  7. Can I profit from that knowledge by writing an ebook, newsletter, podcast or video?
  8. Was I willing to engage with people on a daily basis and help them with their problems little by little until they trusted me?

You have to understand that it is possible to be well educated and not have the drive to step out of your comfort zone to learn something new.  I stepped out of my comfort zone social-wise and stopped associating with people who would waste my time and zap my energy.

I also said to myself “2018 is make or break year – I will do whatever it takes to become successful at affiliate marketing in a decent fashion” When I said that – opportunities started finding their way to me…I sifted them through and chose the best ones that I understood would lead to greater things.  My mentors at Wealthy Affiliate egg me on to succeed at every turn and I am really grateful to sit at their feet at zero cost  apart  from the membership which stands at $49 a month.

You and I have no excuse – there is enough training on the net that is thorough and with support for when you get stuck.  I was afraid of building a website for years because my first efforts were total disasters visually. I even spent £150 to learn WordPress in a 1 day class in West London.  Twice!! I never put the things I learned into action so it seemed like wasted money and time.

However, I am pleased to say that this is my second  site in 4 months.  Thanks to Wealthy Affiliate Training.

Goal Setting

If you can write a list for groceries – you can goal-set.  Simply write a list of what you want to achieve by a certain date. Put them in the right order and also in detail. For example – you want to earn enough to buy a house or new car – where do you want the house to be located?  How much do you want to spend in buying.  Are you buying the house at auction?  Are you going to build from scratch and put your own personal stamp on it decor wise? How many rooms will it have.  Will it have a garden? What size will the garden be?

As you can see you can go on and on into minute detail.

Then you need to list a time-frame for the important details – of the date you will get the money for the house; 6 months, a year, 3 years…You get  the picture.

Break your large goals into mini-goals and put a date to each one that you want to achieve.

You may have to really visualise your list and how you will achieve the points on it. This could mean getting a picture of a house you like the look of (from a magazine perhaps) and making a dream board.


Dream Big! Dream Big

A dream board is so useful! It can take you to a place mentally that brings you out of your present situation and circumstances to greater and marvelous things. Will you take a picture of the rooms of houses you like and see yourself making meals in the lovely kitchen or planting vegetables in the back garden. Or the driveway for the car plus a garage?

Put your dream board in a prominent place in your room where you can see it on a daily basis and dwell on for 10 minutes to half an hour if you have spare time.  If  your dream board is large – it will make you feel that you are in a cinema – stepping into your chosen 3-D experience…You CAN do this.  However, if it is smaller – you can put it in a scrap book and carry it around with you, taking 5 minutes a day looking at it and visualising.

I started doing this and am at a point where, if I think it, it happens… So I am VERY CAREFUL of what I think and say as Words and Thoughts are powerful….


Remember Your First Words on Waking Up!

“This Is The Day The Lord has Made!  Rejoice and Be Glad In It…”

Sing and meditate for 1/2 an hour…You don’t need a good voice…Just let your body feel real good by singing to it…

Your body understands…

You will find that your day will seem brighter and even if your plans are slightly delayed at first, people around you feel good about you and vice versa.

So Try It!…

For The Record I include a Diagram of a Road Map you may be interested in…

Let me know how you get on in the Comments Section and I will happily answer any questions you may have about your days and weeks ahead.







26 thoughts on “Mindset – I Will, I Must, I Can…..”

  1. hello there
    i could not agree with you more, i have learn’t affiliate marketing with a lot of hardships trials and errors if only i could have opened my mind to learning and believing in something like wealthy affiliate may be i would very far now, i started out 6 years ago with no solid evidence of success today but i can my self going somewhere of late after joining wealthy affiliate.

    • Good  on you…

      I know that there are thousands of struggling internet marketers online trying all kinds of methods to make a decent income…

      As long as you don’t quit – and take daily action on the step-by-step guides in wealthy affiliate – you WILL make a profit.  There is too much valuable training from experienced members for us to go wrong.

      In good hands – at last!

  2. Thanks for sharing your experience about Affiliate Marketing. I have just started to learn about it as well. There is so much to learn yet I find it very interesting! Also, I have to say I totally agree with you that we all need to set a clear goal in mind and just keep doing it. No more excuse!

  3. Hi Stella,

    indeed, the mindset for affiliate marketing is very important.  When I started a year ago, I thought I would be rich by the end of 2019.  hehehe.  That did not happen!  I know that I am on the way to become successful in affiliate marketing, but I am still far from being rich through it:-)  

    That being said, keeping your mindset correctly is not always easy, because money doesn’t flow in as easily as you think. Always dream big, as you state, and never give up!  That is the motto.

    Thanks for sharing,


    • Well it’s interesting you say that Oscar,

      because my Mother is a financial expert without going to university or reading any books on finance.  Just her Bible and following it’s principles on tithing. sowing and reaping…I have realised if I do business with God, he will not let me down because He has his reputation at stake.

      It took me a long time to put two and two together to figure out why my Mum and one of my friend’s were never short of money and always had enough to give those in need.

      I have watched both of them growing up and am more money savvy now….

      Thanks for commenting!


  4. Hi Steller,

    I really love your posts. They are so inspiring.

    I totally agree with you. mindset is everything.

    Mindset dictates the outcome.

    Henry Ford said “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right”

    So this really applies to affiliate marketing.

    If you think it’s hard – you are right!

    If you think you can’t do it – you are right!

    If you think you will be an amazing success – You are right!

    Mindset dictates actions. Actions dictate outcome!

    Mindset is everything

    You are right Stella!


    My Life Is My Passion

    • Thank you Tim, 

      I just like to write and type…More so than speaking… 

      Thanks for the compliments…

      All the best.,


  5. Stella, this article rocks!  With the new year approaching, I am going to start setting goals for my business and achieving them.  I’m a motivated individual, but I have no clear goals.  I want short-term goals and long-term goals, and I’m super excited I came upon your site to bring this to my attention.  I will begin now and get ready so when that new year flips to 2019 I’ll be ready to jump in full force.  Thanks for a great article.  Love it!

  6. Hello and thank you for this informative article. I’ve really had a great time reading it. Everyone of us had doubts and mixed feelings. Reaching success is hard and filled with obstacles you need to overcome and a strong will. Believing in yourself and keeping yourself in creative mood is the key.

    I agree with you completely. Wheter is affiliate marketing or any other goal – you need to have clear goals. Not only that , but you also need to dream big. Many people feel they are not suited for affiliate marketing. The thing is, if they are willing to put effort and time into building their business – they are.

    Thank you for your post.


  7. In my own language “yo quiero, yo puedo, yo lo hago” that is the right mindset for everyone in every day life. 

    I had an experience, I got my driver licence about 3 months ago. Here all people was saying to don’t get it “You can’t!”  One day I wake up and say to myself “I want, I can, I will” took several classes and passed the exam, yesssss. 

    Thank you for reminded of the right mindset.👍

  8. I love the mindset here. Singing for 1/2 hour is a great advice! It definitely gets you in the right frame of mind to start.

    And I always meditate every day for about 45 minutes. It does wonders. Getting up each day with goals to reach is an awesome way to be in life.

    I dream, write down goals, and then do what many people do not do. I take action!  Without action none of your goals will become reality.

    This all ties in with affiliate marketing. You have to know what you want and then start building toward getting it. Wealthy Affiliate can help you achieve all of your affiliate marketing goals! You just have to take action and join!

  9. Hi Stella, 

    I quite agree that WA has made the seemingly impossible, possible.  Making money from affiliate marketing that was seen as difficult has been made easy, of course for action takers. Definitely one needs to have the can -do spirit, developing career growth plan and (swot analysis ) i. e strength, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats.

    You also need to create time , be hard-working  and be determined to achieve your set goals and objectives. 

    Those are the necessary mindset to become successful. 

  10. “I will.  I must.  I can.”   This great mindset to have.    Prior to reading your article tonight, I had never really taken the time to think what mindset means.   Yet, I love the definition of mindset that you have provided:  “Being in the right frame of mind to win when facing challenging situations.”   

    I too am an affiliate marketer.    Sometimes, affiliate marketing feels like a marathon.   Yet, even marathon’s have an end.   A finish line.   I must keep in mind that building a successful online affiliate marketing business is really a journey.   An adventure.   

    You have written such an amazing post full of great advise that I find myself wanting to quote you and comment on what you say.   Yet, I don’t want to rewrite you entire article in my own words. lol   So, I will just say that I believe that Wealthy Affiliate is an amazing deal for people that are serious about learning online marketing.     I need to create a dream board so that I can visualize what it is that I am working towards on the days that feel a little bit tougher.    Yet, if I only implement one new thing this week that I learned from you, it will be to repeat the words you suggested, “This Is The Day The Lord has Made!  Rejoice and Be Glad In It…”   

    I am glad that I came across this post tonight.   Thanks and best wishes.  

  11. Stella, your spirit shines through in your words!  I have a different song when I rise ha, sometimes it’s different daily!  Always sharp on the ‘giving thanks theme’ though 🙂  

    The hardest lesson I’ve learned in life that also echoed in my business…I had to love myself as hard as I loved everything and, everyone else.  I had to believe in myself as much as my dear ones believe in me.  

    You made me miss crafting DreamBoards with my goddesses but, you also remind me of why I do what I do and why I still breathe.

    Thank you Stella.  Inspired posts like these really lift me up.  

  12. This has really good insights on how to apply a positive mindset to affiliate marketing. This business model is challenging and you’ll need to have some positive activities outside this business. You’re absolutely right about meditating and singing. It makes the body feel good and you can vibrate higher into a higher frequency and attract financial abundance.

    Thank you for this article, you really have good perspectives.


  13. There were a lot of painful mistakes that I have made in learning affiliate marketing. They were definitely mistakes that would have made other people quit. I am glad to know that I am finally seeing success as a result of these failures.

    One thing I find as far as why people don’t get far or succeed is because of a lack of patience. So many people quit before a breakthrough.

    • This is true Jessie,

      I quit for 2 years in 2010 after being scammed of £2000..I Iet it rest then started dabbling in internet marketing again n 2015.

      I went to several internet marketing seminars and got the bug again!  However, this time I was much wiser.


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