Mindset – I Will, I Must, I Can…..

Mindset is simply being in the right frame of mind to win when facing challenging situations.  For example – if you want to win a race – you need to train your body and eat right to make sure you are healthy enough to compete in the race. You also have to visualise winning – being the first person to pass the finish post.



Personally, I used to run in races for my Junior School.  I had very few friends and decided that if I could run faster than the boys in my school – everyone would love me and want to be my friend.  I would visualise winning and would watch the Olympic Athletics when a leap year came around.  I WILL, I CAN, I MUST became part of my daily mantras.

And the success with races began to happen and I was chosen to represent my school in the borough athletics.

So How Do You Apply Mindset to Affiliate Marketing?

I must admit, affiliate marketing can either be learnt the hard way – through trial and error – or by getting involved in training programs like Wealthy Affiliate.  Before I joined, I had spent hundreds of pounds chasing after shiny buttons on the net and getting scammed left, right and centre.

Then, I decided to focus – find out my weaknesses and strengths within marketing.  The questions I asked myself were:

  1.  What do I understand about Affiliate Marketing?
  2. What don’t I understand about Affiliate Marketing?
  3. Was I willing to take the time to learn about aspects of Affiliate Marketing that I didn’t understand?
  4. Was  I willing to be coachable and learn from more experienced people than myself?
  5. What is  the most cost-effective way of learning from mentors without forking out thousands of pounds in coaching fees?
  6. Who am I and what knowledge do I have that could solve peoples’ problems?
  7. Can I profit from that knowledge by writing an ebook, newsletter, podcast or video?
  8. Was I willing to engage with people on a daily basis and help them with their problems little by little until they trusted me?

You have to understand that it is possible to be well educated and not have the drive to step out of your comfort zone to learn something new.  I stepped out of my comfort zone social-wise and stopped associating with people who would waste my time and zap my energy.

I also said to myself “2018 is make or break year – I will do whatever it takes to become successful at affiliate marketing in a decent fashion” When I said that – opportunities started finding their way to me…I sifted them through and chose the best ones that I understood would lead to greater things.  My mentors at Wealthy Affiliate egg me on to succeed at every turn and I am really grateful to sit at their feet at zero cost  apart  from the membership which stands at $49 a month.

You and I have no excuse – there is enough training on the net that is thorough and with support for when you get stuck.  I was afraid of building a website for years because my first efforts were total disasters visually. I even spent £150 to learn WordPress in a 1 day class in West London.  Twice!! I never put the things I learned into action so it seemed like wasted money and time.

However, I am pleased to say that this is my second  site in 4 months.

Goal Setting

If you can write a list for groceries – you can goal-set.  Simply write a list of what you want to achieve by a certain date. Put them in the right order and also in detail. For example – you want to earn enough to buy a house or new car – where do you want the house to be located?  How much do you want to spend in buying.  Are you buying the house at auction?  Are you going to build from scratch and put your own personal stamp on it decor wise? How many rooms will it have.  Will it have a garden? What size will the garden be?

As you can see you can go on and on into minute detail.

Tnen you need to list a time-frame for the important details – of the date you will get the money for the house; 6 months, a year, 3 years…You get  the picture.

Break your large goals into mini-goals and put a date to each one that you want to achieve.

You may have to really visualise your list and how you will achieve the points on it. This could mean getting a picture of a house you like the look of (from a magazine perhaps) and making a dream board.


Dream Big!

A dream board is so useful! It can take you to a place mentally that brings you out of your present situation and circumstances to greater and marvelous things. Will you take a picture of the rooms of houses you like and see yourself making meals in the lovely kitchen or planting vegetables in the back garden. Or the driveway for the car plus a garage?

Put your dream board in a prominent place in your room where you can see it on a daily basis and dwell on for 10 minutes to half an hour if you have spare time.  If  your dream board is large – it will make you feel that you are in a cinema – stepping into your chosen 3-D experience…You CAN do this.  However, if it is smaller – you can put it in a scrap book and carry it around with you, taking 5 minutes a day looking at it and visualising.









  1. hello there
    i could not agree with you more, i have learn’t affiliate marketing with a lot of hardships trials and errors if only i could have opened my mind to learning and believing in something like wealthy affiliate may be i would very far now, i started out 6 years ago with no solid evidence of success today but i can my self going somewhere of late after joining wealthy affiliate.

    • Good  on you…

      I know that there are thousands of struggling internet marketers online trying all kinds of methods to make a decent income…

      As long as you don’t quit – and take daily action on the step-by-step guides in wealthy affiliate – you WILL make a profit.  There is too much valuable training from experienced members for us to go wrong.

      In good hands – at last!

  2. Thanks for sharing your experience about Affiliate Marketing. I have just started to learn about it as well. There is so much to learn yet I find it very interesting! Also, I have to say I totally agree with you that we all need to set a clear goal in mind and just keep doing it. No more excuse!

  3. Hi Stella,

    indeed, the mindset for affiliate marketing is very important.  When I started a year ago, I thought I would be rich by the end of 2019.  hehehe.  That did not happen!  I know that I am on the way to become successful in affiliate marketing, but I am still far from being rich through it:-)  

    That being said, keeping your mindset correctly is not always easy, because money doesn’t flow in as easily as you think. Always dream big, as you state, and never give up!  That is the motto.

    Thanks for sharing,


    • Well it’s interesting you say that Oscar,

      because my Mother is a financial expert without going to university or reading any books on finance.  Just her Bible and following it’s principles on tithing. sowing and reaping…I have realised if I do business with God, he will not let me down because He has his reputation at stake.

      It took me a long time to put two and two together to figure out why my Mum and one of my friend’s were never short of money and always had enough to give those in need.

      I have watched both of them growing up and am more money savvy now….

      Thanks for commenting!


  4. Hi Steller,

    I really love your posts. They are so inspiring.

    I totally agree with you. mindset is everything.

    Mindset dictates the outcome.

    Henry Ford said “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right”

    So this really applies to affiliate marketing.

    If you think it’s hard – you are right!

    If you think you can’t do it – you are right!

    If you think you will be an amazing success – You are right!

    Mindset dictates actions. Actions dictate outcome!

    Mindset is everything

    You are right Stella!


    My Life Is My Passion

    • Thank you Tim, 

      I just like to write and type…More so than speaking… 

      Thanks for the compliments…

      All the best.,


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